I love when I read a book and it sparks something in me. It evokes feelings I didn’t know I had. I just finished reading Far Cry by Kate Canterbary and I’m just in awe. I relate to the main character, Brooke so so much. The years I remember of my childhood were spent in and out of doctors offices and hospitals with my dad. Don’t get me wrong I never lacked the love or important stuff, but growing up with that leaves a lasting impact on my soul. In the book, Brooke is this fiery, fierce woman who has endured a lot and has learned to take no shit. But underneath it all she is deeply impacted by the wounds of her life. In one part she says “I’ve been dragging little red wagons worth of issues around since forever.” I’ve never had something sink in my skin the way that sentence did.
We all bare scars from the life we’ve lived thus far. It’s up to us whether we learn from them and allow them to hinder us or enable us. The past 5 months have unearthed past hurts for myself and my mom. Hurts that I didn’t know she had and hurts that I didn’t know really bothered me. Those are her story to tell and to work with. I tend to take in others problems, especially of those I care most about. I’ve lived a life where it’s easier to pick up and carry on than it is to sit with my feelings and allow them to teach me something. Cancer is a huge part of my life, as is my journey with my past. I’m allowed to feel the way I do and so are you. Know one has lived in your shoes but what I do know is, it’s possible to hurt people because you hurt. Cancer has taught me more than anything in my life and yet I hate it with a passion I didn’t know I possessed. Cancer is like looking in 360 degree mirror of your life. It invites feelings that you didn’t know were there. My soul hurts, my depression is worse than it ever has been. I have suicidal thoughts more than I had in my teen angst years. My soul is tired. Im tired of fighting this battle and carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. I don’t know that I want to live anymore. I’m tired of fake people who make it seem like their life is perfect. I’m tired of the financial and emotional burden cancer has put on my mom and I. I’m tired of people who say they’re there but never really show up.
This wasn’t wrote to seek pity but as a reminder that words have the power that a knife never will. The letters and sentences can be the very thing that lifts someone up or bury them Remember that the next time you speak.
I recently had to write a mission statement for my College Transfer class. While reading other mission statments and then writing down what is most important to me I came up with the following.
My mission statement-
It is my mission to love God and love people. Staying true to my morals and values while exploring this great big life He has given me. Striving to always stay passionately curious and be always learning. I will remember where I came from, while working towards who I want to be. I will love fiercely and deeply. I promise to always be the best version of myself to whoever I come in contact with. I will always be there for the family who has always been there and to the friends that continue to stand beside me, I have your back 150%. For my future husband, I vow to be your partner and lover for the rest of our days. For my future children, I promise to be your parent first and friend second, to love you with every ounce of my being and be the role model that you deserve. I will radiate self- love and confidence, which is so important for the modern woman to have. I strive to be honest in every situation. I will give 100% to whatever I do. I will develop and cultivate a happy, fulfilled existence; I will passionately radiate life.
I don’t think I could be any more proud and thrilled with what I came up with. I think when we truly look for oursleves and who we want to be it is incredibly important to stand for something. What do you think? I’d love to hear from you.
These cracks run all over.
You have to pick up the spilled pieces, place them back together and tape them up the best you can.
You go day by day and live with the cracks knowing they’re there and dealing with them the best you know how.
Some day’s the tape might break so you have to pick the pieces up and tape them back together again.
But life moves on.
You move on and you live and breathe and live your life to honor his legacy
One day you look around and you see the cracks and the tape and glue and you know that you’re gonna be ok and you can live with these cracks.
“A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bully’s another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever.”
(Photo and Quote from: Electric 102.7FM)
You know the old adage “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurts you”? Well whoever came up with that, lied. Words are some of the most powerful weapons you can use against someone, often they hurt far worse than any physical blow. I’ve had my fair share of mean and hurtful things said about me. Whether it be behind my back, to my face, or passive aggressively in just a “oh, i’m picking with you.” manner. It doesn’t matter the form you use, it still hurts. I’ve always tried to watch what I say because I know the pain and impact your words can have on someone, but sometimes I fail. Sometimes I say something that I never mean to hurt someone and it ends up hurting them. I always try to apologize and hope that it can make up for the hurt but like the crumpled up paper, it still leaves a scar. I often seem to be the target of the passive aggressive form. It doesn’t matter if you were just picking or if you meant to hurt that person, it can still leave a scar. So today I challenge you to carefully choose your words and remember the lasting impact they can have on someone.